2 Sep 2018

Sassy, Selfish & Single.

"Here she is again. Blogging about periods, boys or being single". Yep, Here I am!
I often get asked why I'm single. The reality is that I have been single, officially, since I was 18, I'm now 24. I've obviously had some near-misses, but officially, I've spent my entire adult life being selfishly independent. More recently I've taken an interest in my single reign coming to an end, yet I think it's become blatantly clear that I'm so not ready to settle just yet. 
I'm not ready to give up my lazy evenings lounging around in my own company, waking up without someone under my feet while I attempt to get ready for work. I've met some striking chaps on my quest to find the one. Some complete A holes too... but mainly nice gents. I think I wanted the comfort of feeling wanted, without the hassle and drama of them hanging around for breakfast the next morning.
I love that I can come home from work, cook whatever I fancy, close the door behind me and sing my lungs out to Britney with my hairbrush in the mirror if I want to. 
I find it a little sad that people find themselves lost without their partners around. If you're not comfortable in your own company, who can you be comfortable with?
Here's some tips on how to be sassy, selfish & single.

  1. Put yourself first, always. Don't live for other people's expectations and instead, live for your own.
  2. Be confident. They say there's nothing more powerful than a woman who knows what she wants. And my God they're right.
  3. Take the compliment. Guys can be intimidated by a sassy single lady, so when they show a interest, it actually means more than you'd think.
  4. See your friends regularly. It's important you're there for them and they're there for you. No matter what.
  5. Find your style. Dress how you wanna dress. Listen to the music you wanna listen to. The world would be a truly awful place if we were all millennial clones.
  6. Get a hobby. Go for walks. Read. Exercise. Keep your mind and body active on those cold lonely evenings when you're not feeling your full sassy self.
  7. Accept help. Swallow your pride and knock on your neighbours door if there's something you can't reach. Ask the tall gent in Tesco to reach the top shelf. You're still a strong, independent woman. Just a small one...
  8. Sharing sometimes isn't caring. Buy things for you. You work hard to play hard, right? So treat yourself. You deserve it.
I've found that I'm worth more than the men I've met. Just because I'm single and have been for a long time doesn't mean that I don't deserve to be wined and dined. Guys automatically assume that you're an easy catch because you long for that company. Well, not this little lady. I'm content with my three jobs, Netflix account and big double bed for one thanking you very much! I like the idea of sharing my life with someone but the reality of it is that if I'd have dedicated my time to someone else, would I have travelled to Australia for the year? Would I have been the Camp Journalist in Connecticut, USA? Probably not.

Live your life for you, when the time is right, someone will come around and sweep you off of your feet I'm sure. But in the meantime, own your sassy, selfish and single self.

Just Write About It.
Raven Twigg.

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